We had picked out names before we had Steven. When it comes to big decisions Steve and I are both pretty decisive... it's just stuff like what should we do for dinner that spins us in circles for hours. If we had a daughter we were going to name her Victoria Mae. Victoria is my middle name which we both love and Mae is a band that we spent listening to when we first started dating , going to their show on one of our first dates. BUT Maybe we will have to save that for our next beagle after these two kick the bucket ... sad... ANYWAYS Our boy name had been well planned also.
Kane is Steve's Mom Fran's maiden name. Their family is very important to us and her mother Sally is one of those family members that we hold very close ( and sally for a boy just might get a few jokes.) We always thought Kane would be a very strong name that would fit our son perfectly. My maternal Grandfather," Papa" James Olson, might as well be my second ( or 3rd?) Dad. He has played a huge role in my life and he means more to both Steve and I than anyone in this world. Many people see the similarities between him and Steve which is truly an honor . Being a retired Air Force Colonel and pilot, Vietnam vet, Quick witted, A head taller than most, ginormous heart, and having a certain presence about him simply demands honor and respect are all traits that we could only hope and pray to carry on to our children. With a name like Kane James Trumbull he can be nothing less than perfection!
As we sat in the Dr. Johnston's office elated at the news from the ultra sound, she brought us some more news that was a bit more surprising. On the ultrasound they detected a small white spot, a calcification , on his heart. It was literally 1 millimeter, miniature. The spot itself will remain in his heart but will never cause any problems, not require any surgery, or change anything about him in any way. However, an Echogenic intracardiac focus ( technical terms) is a soft marker for down syndrome. This is one of the smaller markers but it does raise some concern. I chose not to be tested earlier for genetic disorders because to me it really didn't matter. She recommended that I go ahead and do the blood testing for genetic disorders just to have another bases to look off of before taking anymore tests. So we did, they sent it off to Birmingham and results should be here within 2-3 weeks. No news is good news but if something positive does come back they will inform us ASAP.
Obviously the initial reaction was shock, followed by many many tears on my part. Tears of the unknown , tears of how much our life could change forever in a few months. We like to think that we are immune to everything and that nothing could go wrong when we are young and healthy right? More than anything else this is opening my eyes to the fact that ANYTHING can happen to any of us and it is completely out of our control. Either way we will have a healthy beautiful boy that we will love unconditionally, there is just a possibility of ONE extra chromosome :) As pretty much everyone has said to us, if anyone can handle this it would be us. We are completely capable and ready for anything at this point. God only gives us what we can handle.
It is very common to see this EIF with absolutely no problems. In fact if you look on chat boards about it you can find MANY MORE stories resulting in no DS and simply overly prepared doctors. The blood test will give us some more specific odds , we just have to wait a couple weeks to find out. Until then keep us in your happy thoughts and prayers. That whatever the outcome, it is what is right for our family.
Kane is adorable, with large feet ( go figure right?) Oh and he is DEFINITELY a boy!
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